Comments on: Having Alone Time and Feeling Lonely, What is Your Comfort Level? http://www.journeyofsuccess.net/2008/06/having-alone-time-and-feeling-lonely-what-is-your-comfort-level Piggy's Blog Wed, 07 Apr 2010 18:37:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Kin http://www.journeyofsuccess.net/2008/06/having-alone-time-and-feeling-lonely-what-is-your-comfort-level/comment-page-1#comment-5806 Kin Fri, 06 Jun 2008 07:46:50 +0000 http://www.piggysblog.com/archives/331#comment-5806 Thanks Rob. The scenario of people thinking ‘what’s wrong with you?” for just having some good old alone time, relaxing, reading, and what not… is so typical. Like you HAVE TO do something for a weekend. Can't I just relax? lol So glad to hear from you from Philippines with a perspective from the outside and at the same time had experienced the U.S. life style. Thanks Rob. The scenario of people thinking ‘what’s wrong with you?” for just having some good old alone time, relaxing, reading, and what not… is so typical. Like you HAVE TO do something for a weekend. Can’t I just relax? lol

So glad to hear from you from Philippines with a perspective from the outside and at the same time had experienced the U.S. life style.

]]> By: rob http://www.journeyofsuccess.net/2008/06/having-alone-time-and-feeling-lonely-what-is-your-comfort-level/comment-page-1#comment-5803 rob Thu, 05 Jun 2008 21:11:04 +0000 http://www.piggysblog.com/archives/331#comment-5803 I really agree with this post. Back when I was living in the US, I always felt ashamed and guilty whenever I wasn't busy. It was as if there was this unspoken peer pressure to always be occupied with something. If someone asked me what I did last weekend, and I replied "oh, nothing, I just stayed home by myself", I would typically get the "what's wrong with you?" reaction. For some reason, aloneness is equated to loser-ness. Now that I'm back in my home country (the Philippines), I can safely announce to my friends, "I was alone and read a book this weekend", without any judgment being passed. Some would even reply with a "good for you!" pat on the back. The pretense of being occupied all the time just isn't that big a deal. Busyness is not necessarily valued, and aloneness is looked upon as valuable time spent recharging. I get my best insights and revelations when I am able to clear away all distractions. It often results in clear thinking, determining what are the most important things to focus on, and being fully aware of the moment. Time spent being alone and self-aware is a great investment. I really agree with this post.

Back when I was living in the US, I always felt ashamed and guilty whenever I wasn’t busy. It was as if there was this unspoken peer pressure to always be occupied with something. If someone asked me what I did last weekend, and I replied “oh, nothing, I just stayed home by myself”, I would typically get the “what’s wrong with you?” reaction. For some reason, aloneness is equated to loser-ness.

Now that I’m back in my home country (the Philippines), I can safely announce to my friends, “I was alone and read a book this weekend”, without any judgment being passed. Some would even reply with a “good for you!” pat on the back. The pretense of being occupied all the time just isn’t that big a deal. Busyness is not necessarily valued, and aloneness is looked upon as valuable time spent recharging.

I get my best insights and revelations when I am able to clear away all distractions. It often results in clear thinking, determining what are the most important things to focus on, and being fully aware of the moment. Time spent being alone and self-aware is a great investment.

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